Do you find yourself in so many weddings but it’s not your own? One after another, your friends seem to get engaged and you are asked to be one of the bridesmaids.  This is the story of your life, that famous quote, “Always a bridesmaid, never the bride”.  

You should be grateful that you are asked to be in the wedding party. That means your friend cherishes you to be part of her special day. You need to realize that this is an honor to be part of. Let me ask you this, if this was your wedding day, wouldn’t you want your single friends to celebrate with you? Why then while you are still single, would you be a sourpuss on your friend’s wedding? It’s not about you, it’s about the bride. If you cannot be happy and celebrate with your friend that is getting married, how do you expect that God is going to bring you that special mate? No wonder you are not married yet.

Any wedding, whether it’s your friend or worse, your enemy, you should have the attitude of celebration. The bible says in Matthew 7:12 –

Do to others whatever you would like them to do to you.  

This is the Bible’s Golden Rule! God sees your heart’s desire to get married and he wants to bless you with a mate. But I truly believe God makes us wait to see how we re-act to others being blessed before it’s our turn. You see, it’s about our heart-condition. We need to be happy for others instead of griping and complaining. I love Joyce Meyer when she preaches on selfishness. She moves across the stage like a robot with a broken record repeating the words, “What about me, what about me, what about me?”  

When you complain and grumble about not being married, it can become bitterness and jealousy in your heart towards others that are being blessed.  This is not the right attitude to have and God is not pleased with it. It reminds Him of a child throwing a tantrum because the child does not get his/her way. Do not be like this child, but instead be that child of God that is pleasing & acceptable to Him. Here is what you need to do to please God in this area…

The more you celebrate and support someone in their wedding plans & marriage, then it will also be done unto you when it is YOUR turn.  Wedding plans are stressful enough and you want to be the biggest fan and encourager to the bride and groom. This is about them, not you. If you take this time to celebrate and make them feel special, then when it’s YOUR turn, you are going to be more blessed and stress-free!!! If you don’t change your bad attitude, you may never get YOUR turn.

Also look on the brighter side of this – you will get more experience with weddings of what to do and what not to do. Learn as much as you can and get some great ideas from others. So by the time it’s YOUR  turn, you will have the most perfect wedding of all!  Remember, being single is just a season in your life. It’s what you do during this season that will determine your future. Celebrate with others now. Remember  the Golden Rule!

This is the cry of help from people that are part of an online social relationship group. I decided to join just to see the advice given to these people that are desperately seeking for answers. I spent hours upon hours on the first day as I read the various topics such as:

• How to make out with someone
• I’m addicted to sex
• How to steal her away
• I think I am gay
• Suicidal thoughts
• Going through a Divorce
• Which are the best Condoms

Practically any topic related to sex, dating & relationships have been posted. I was overwhelmed as each submission had such an urgency and desperation for that person to find an answer to their problem. This saddens me and the worse thing about it is the advice that people are actually giving. Let me give you an example of the issue of one girl that asked, “How to pop my cherry without having sex”. She further states that she wants to break her hymen so she doesn’t bleed the first time she has sex. And the advice she gets from others is to masturbate, use a vibrator and even use a foreign object to break her own hymen. My jaw dropped to the floor at this type of advice. The girl that asked the questioned thanked them and was going to try it. Are you kidding me? This is what our world has come down to…getting this kind of advice from strangers on the internet. Why aren’t people telling her that virginity is a very precious gift from God. It also is the most ultimate gift she can give to her future husband if she just waits.  Not one person came close to this.

So I decided to give it a try with my advice, hoping I can make a difference. What I found was that the majority of the people giving the advice will influence that person to make that decision. I stumbled across a post where a female was in love with a guy that was perfect except he had one flaw…he is bi-sexual. She felt she was Homophobic and wasn’t sure about dating him. Every advice before mine gave her the green light in giving him a chance and she needed to get over being homophobic. They told her it is accepted in today’s society to be bi-sexual.  Something in me wanted to give these people a piece of my Christian mind, but I decided to be human about it and not be one of those judgmental Christians. I took the approach of warning her of the risk that she may get a STD or worse AIDS with him. Do you know that everyone SHOT down my advice and attacked me? WOW! That blew me away. At the end, this female tells everyone that she has decided to give him a chance and date him. I believe she made this decision based on more people supporting her in dating him than not to date him. It’s another form of peer pressure but online.

As I continue to read the various issues people posted, the one major topic that kept coming up was regarding virginity and when is the right time to lose it. There were a lot of arguments for both sides: wait until marriage and others say do it now, when you feel you are ready, when you are in love, etc.  Some said they had regrets on giving up their virginity before marriage. It just goes to show, people do desire to save their purity until marriage! But how can people save themselves for their mate when our society gives bad advice like the ones on this social network?

As I said, it seems like a lot of these people that post will make a decision on what the majority says. If we as Christians were out there among them, we can stand up for what we believe in and have an influence on people searching for answers. As Christians, we all know they are searching for Jesus, the one and only answer. It’s up to us to show them the love of Jesus. Together we can influence the world in making good decisions. It’s time to stand up for good morals. Will you join me  in helping others?

The next generation is crying out to the world for answers. Christians – I challenge you all to be the voice that they need to hear because they are the sheep that’s getting ready to be slaughtered by this world. Step up to the challenge and befriend these people that are so hungry for the truth but don’t know it’s Jesus they are looking for. If you won’t tell them, who will? The pimp, drug dealer or the pedophile that is right around the corner, that’s who. Again, my question to you is – will you join me in helping others?
Jesus answered, “I am the way and the TRUTH and the life…”   John 14:6