Do’s & Don’ts on the 1st Date
DO let the other person talk more.
The idea is to get to know your date and it should be a two-sided
conversation. If one person is doing all the talking, then that could be a sign of narcissism (aka; arrogant, egotistic, selfish, etc.). I have known guys that love to hear themselves talk about nothing. It may seem fine at first because the pressure is off of you having to talk, but in the long run, this type of behavior is not good in any relationships. You should already have some questions in your mind to ask your date. These are questions that will help you get to know them better but not to personal. For example, find out where they work and what they do at work. Ask more details about their job. Everyone loves talking about what they do whether they like their job or not. Another question could be to find out some hobbies/ sports they like to do. You can even go as far as asking what their dreams and passion in life are.
You must be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to get angry – James 1:19
DON’T share about your past relationships.
This is your 1st date for crying out loud, not a therapy 
session! Talking to deep about past relationships can be a total turn off to your date. Don’t bring up your baggage and lay it all on the table. Some have argued with me stating that they are just being honest and if they don’t like me for who I am than it’s better to let them know upfront. Come on now! Why would you want to scare someone off right away? Look, we all have baggage and I’m not saying that you have to keep your past a secret. But there is a time and place for that and your first date is NOT the time NOR place!
DO let a friend or family member know your plan for the night.
In today’s society, we need to be more careful when we go out on a first date. Be safe and at least let someone know that you are going on a first date and what time you expect to be home. 
This way, your friend or family member will be your accountability person. They can call you at a certain time to make sure that 1) you are okay and 2) you are home when you say you are coming home. Also, if you want to get out of your date, that phone call can be your excuse out. You should already have it made up in your mind what time you are going to come home. The 1st date should never go beyond 2 hours and definitely never go beyond MIDNIGHT. Nothing good ever happens after midnight!
DON’T ever go back to your place or your date’s place.
It’s just common sense NOT to go back 
to their place. So many people do not realize that once you step foot into the door, you set yourself up emotionally and physically. You don’t want to send the wrong message to your date that you are easy or vulnerable by accepting the offer to their place for coffee or whatever. You can set yourself up emotionally by seeing personal items inside their home. There may be pictures, clothing or personal items in their bathroom that you start connecting yourself with emotionally. I remember checking out the bedroom & kitchen of my date’s house. I started in my mind already fixing the place up for my liking! Now, I don’t think I have to tell you how you can become physical with each other when alone with your date and there is a couch or bed nearby. It may just start out with holding hands, to kissing and before you know it, you are in the heat of the moment and you end up in bed together. It is very vital that you stay away from your date’s apartment, house, etc. all together on your first few dates. Be SMART and SAFE on your 1st date.
