A Trophy Wife

This is a continuation of my last blog in facilitating a co-ed relationship class of forty men and women.  A question that was asked by the women to the men was, “Why do men like blondes, who are super skinny and with big boobs?”   

Before we continue the discussion from the class, let’s take a moment to learn more about this statement. If we are to put a label to this statement, it would be a “Trophy Wife (or Girlfriend)”. So, I decided to go surf the internet for a definition. Here is what I found from various people:

• A woman who marries for money and sits around all day looking pretty
• A sugar daddy that provides power and materialist things and she  provides beauty and sex
• Trophy wives do three things: lunch, tennis, and their rich sexy husbands
• A bimbo who sits at home all day giving out to the pool boy, while reading Hello! and OK magazine, and drives a  Mercedes ML
• A title many women only wish they were pretty enough to attain
• A trophy wife is a “deer” with a “big rack” you “mount” in the den.
• An attractive, well-bred younger woman who has a social grace necessary to accompany him to public  functions

And of course, I had to get the truth from Wikipedia (with a hint of sarcasm). Their definition is that it refers to the historical practice of warriors capturing the most beautiful women during battle to bring home as wives, even if most modern trophy wives are acquired through other means.

Now that we understand the definition by the world’s standards, let’s get back to the co-ed class. After that question was asked, I sensed it touched a bunch of nerves with the guys. Some guys laughed while others rolled their eyes. A guy spoke up and said he took offense to this. Then others follow suit.

One female tried to make them understand why women think this. But the guys continue to defend themselves about this stereotype women put on them. I sense the women were afraid to speak up any more because the outspoken guys were starting to become overbearing in their voices.

I finally stepped it to hopefully give more clarity to the guys about it. Our society has plastered this image of a woman in physical beauty. Look at all the celebrities, movies, music videos, and even commercials. As women, we cannot compete with this unrealistic image that supposedly portrays beauty. Because of this, it produces low self-esteem and insecurities within women. Plus it doesn’t help when women are hurt by past relationships of guys who prefer this stereotype image over a plain Jane. After some serious discussion, the guys in the room said they can understand why women would think that, but not to place all men in that category.

I totally agree with this, because I know I was once a man-hater because of guys that treated me badly. That is not fair to the other guys out there that are decent. In return, guys cannot put such a high expectation on women’s appearance. Think about this, what if your trophy wife got into a car accident and her face was all jacked up? Then what? Will you trade her in for another trophy wife since she doesn’t have the look anymore?

Would you agree with me to say that a Trophy Wife is someone that is on display for her beauty? Do you know the Trophy Wife is in the bible? Come look with me in Isaiah 61:3 – They will be called oaks of righteousness, a planting of the Lord for the display of His splendor. We are considered to be the bride of Christ and he wants to show us off as his Trophy Wife. WOW, that’s profound!

See, the physical beauty is what man wants to show off to the world, but it goes deeper than that. God wants to show off the inner-beauty which outweighs the outside appearance. When God displays your inner beauty, it will overflow and radiate outwardly. Physical beauty fades away, but spiritual beauty lasts forever.

Ladies, ask yourself this…”What kind of Trophy Wife do I want to be?” And gentlemen, ask yourself this…”Do I want a Worldly Trophy Wife with her beauty being temporary or a Godly Trophy Wife with her beauty being everlasting?”