Comments on: What Does The Bible Say About Dating? http://www.bavirgin.com/2009/07/what-does-the-bible-say-about-dating/ Just another WordPress weblog Tue, 30 Mar 2010 14:12:47 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: bornagainvirgin http://www.bavirgin.com/2009/07/what-does-the-bible-say-about-dating/comment-page-1/#comment-144 bornagainvirgin Wed, 06 Jan 2010 22:55:16 +0000 http://bavirgin.com/?p=203#comment-144 Hello Addisu, I am so sorry that you are unhappy being single. I totally understand as I too for many years was very unhappy and even mad at God for not bringing me a mate that I felt He had promised me. It wasn't until I was 36 years old that God finally brought someone in my life. Why did it take so long you ask? Because God wanted me to find fellowship with Him first. I had to learn to have him as my friend and husband first before I was ready for someone in my life. It took my up until then to FINALLY realize that I had to be happy and content with being myself and being single. It came to a point in my life where God asked me to put this on the altar (just like Abraham put Isaac on the altar as a sacrifice). It was difficult for me because every since I was a little girl, my dream was to be married with children. But with God's help and me finally coming to that point where I gave the thought of being married on the altar and I truly had to say to myself and God that if He wanted me to me single the rest of my life, (I wouldn't like it and God would really ahve to help me with this) so be it. From that day on, I made a decision in my heart that it was going to be me & Jesus. I got involved in my church and started focusing on helping others and not so much on myself. Do you know within a few months, God threw a curveball at me? This guy started pursuing me. I was enjoying life being single that I didn't even want to get involved with anyone at that time. To make a long story short, I ended up marrying this man. My point is that it's not about marriage making you happy, but it's about God giving you joy and peace of where you are at right now. Paul said that he learned to be content (Phillippians 4:11). The secret to happiness if being content in where you are at right now. God knows the desires of your heart and He will give it to you in His timing. Until that time, enjoy your life as it is only for a season. Can I suggest you read the book I wrote Born-Again Virgin? I believe this book will help you find yourself as a single adult. Praying for you my brother in Christ! Vilma Hello Addisu,

I am so sorry that you are unhappy being single. I totally understand as I too for many years was very unhappy and even mad at God for not bringing me a mate that I felt He had promised me. It wasn’t until I was 36 years old that God finally brought someone in my life. Why did it take so long you ask? Because God wanted me to find fellowship with Him first. I had to learn to have him as my friend and husband first before I was ready for someone in my life. It took my up until then to FINALLY realize that I had to be happy and content with being myself and being single. It came to a point in my life where God asked me to put this on the altar (just like Abraham put Isaac on the altar as a sacrifice). It was difficult for me because every since I was a little girl, my dream was to be married with children. But with God’s help and me finally coming to that point where I gave the thought of being married on the altar and I truly had to say to myself and God that if He wanted me to me single the rest of my life, (I wouldn’t like it and God would really ahve to help me with this) so be it. From that day on, I made a decision in my heart that it was going to be me & Jesus. I got involved in my church and started focusing on helping others and not so much on myself. Do you know within a few months, God threw a curveball at me? This guy started pursuing me. I was enjoying life being single that I didn’t even want to get involved with anyone at that time. To make a long story short, I ended up marrying this man.

My point is that it’s not about marriage making you happy, but it’s about God giving you joy and peace of where you are at right now. Paul said that he learned to be content (Phillippians 4:11). The secret to happiness if being content in where you are at right now. God knows the desires of your heart and He will give it to you in His timing. Until that time, enjoy your life as it is only for a season. Can I suggest you read the book I wrote Born-Again Virgin? I believe this book will help you find yourself as a single adult. Praying for you my brother in Christ!

Vilma

]]> By: Addisu http://www.bavirgin.com/2009/07/what-does-the-bible-say-about-dating/comment-page-1/#comment-134 Addisu Fri, 25 Dec 2009 10:18:42 +0000 http://bavirgin.com/?p=203#comment-134 I am not a happy single male christian and who is 34- years -old. I feel hopelessness on the daily basis because of loneliness. Each morning I pray so that I meet somebody and be a friend. I am exhausted and don't know how to ask God to help me find one. I just want someone to talk to. Be intimate friend. And this intimacy is not about sex or dating. Talking, loving and caring. To wait until the time He guides me to propose to her. What must I do to find a pure friendship? I prefer to meet an older woman. I don't know why. Outside my race too. Does God helps people find a marriage couple or am I wasting my time praying? How do I stop praying so that I stop waiting for a miracle that is not going to happen. I made a mistake when I was 26 and lost my virginity. Am I still getting punished even after I repented? I also always pray so that I am not led into a temptation. I always pray so that I don't burn with lust. I don't believe sex is the most important thing that makes a relationship work all the time. What I look in a relationship is a good communication and understanding the other person to be a good friend. I want it to be just like the Bible times . If I don't meet somebody in person could it possible to meet a single christian online? I want to build a relationship real slow but want to know if she is the right person for me. I can wait. But the big problem is there is no one out there who wants to wait until the right time to commit. I am in a confusion and it really affected my life. I find my life meaningless without a woman. What must I do to meet one???? I really love women. Is it not better to marry than burn with passion? I read, '. . . since there is so much immorality , each man should have his own wife, and each wife her own husband.' 1 Corinthians, 7;2-3. What does it mean when it says, 'should have'? I never heard anything encouraging from Christians regarding marriage and I don't expect to hear anything that comforts me from you. I just want someone to talk to. I am not a happy single male christian and who is 34- years -old. I feel hopelessness on the daily basis because of loneliness. Each morning I pray so that I meet somebody and be a friend. I am exhausted and don’t know how to ask God to help me find one. I just want someone to talk to. Be intimate friend. And this intimacy is not about sex or dating. Talking, loving and caring. To wait until the time He guides me to propose to her. What must I do to find a pure friendship? I prefer to meet an older woman. I don’t know why. Outside my race too. Does God helps people find a marriage couple or am I wasting my time praying? How do I stop praying so that I stop waiting for a miracle that is not going to happen.
I made a mistake when I was 26 and lost my virginity. Am I still getting punished even after I repented? I also always pray so that I am not led into a temptation. I always pray so that I don’t burn with lust. I don’t believe sex is the most important thing that makes a relationship work all the time. What I look in a relationship is a good communication and understanding the other person to be a good friend. I want it to be just like the Bible times .
If I don’t meet somebody in person could it possible to meet a single christian online? I want to build a relationship real slow but want to know if she is the right person for me. I can wait. But the big problem is there is no one out there who wants to wait until the right time to commit. I am in a confusion and it really affected my life. I find my life meaningless without a woman. What must I do to meet one???? I really love women. Is it not better to marry than burn with passion? I read, ‘. . . since there is so much immorality , each man should have his own wife, and each wife her own husband.’ 1 Corinthians, 7;2-3. What does it mean when it says, ’should have’?

I never heard anything encouraging from Christians regarding marriage and I don’t expect to hear anything that comforts me from you. I just want someone to talk to.

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