True Love Waits

As I continue to review movies regarding relationship, I was given the DVD of Fireproof from a friend.  It sat for awhile as I thought it was going to be one of those cheesy Christian movies. But I decided to give it a shot since my passion is to help people with relationships.  It started out slow and I can tell it was a low-budget movie. However, to my amazement, I really got into this movie and even cried a couple of time.  Now, you have to understand that when I tear up that is the same as crying. So, when I actually cry than it’s like sobbing!

I really like the fact that throughout this movie, real issues came up and wasn’t the fairy tale marriage that Hollywood portrays. It’s about a man that is a fireman and unhappily married. He saves people from fire but cannot save his own marriage from being destroyed.  They both are just going through the motions living together but had separate lives.

 The man went to his father for advice and his father begged him not to divorce yet but challenged him to a 40-day challenge called Love Dare. Each day consisted of something that he must do on his part.  He started doing things such as act of kindness, just calling to see if she needs anything, sending flowers, etc. 

I remember someone once told me that if we want to learn about something, we must go to the experts. So if I am having problems with my computer, I would go to a technician that knows about computers, not a car salesman.  I believe before anyone gets married, they should learn all they can about marriage life. To learn this, one must go to couples that have been married 30, 40, or 50 years. They are the expert in this field and will give you the advice you need to make a marriage successful. And PLEASE don’t go to your single friends for advice on marriage. You are setting yourself up for disaster!

Now, let’s get back to the movie. The husband had a good friend at work that encouraged him to stay married and was there for his support. The woman on the other hand had friends that gossip and said her husband was only being nice to get all he can from her when they divorced. To the look of things, I believe the women were all single. So the wife didn’t respond to her husband a few days into this because of advice from her friends. He felt rejected. He calls his dad and said it’s not working. He has tried everything he can and he is ready to give up.

SO MANY TIMES, PEOPLE WANT A QUICK FIX. IT TAKES YEARS TO DESTROY A MARRIAGE AND THEY EXPECT THINGS TO GO RIGHT OVERNIGHT. IT DOESN’T WORK THAT WAY. THE BIBLE SAYS THAT LOVE IS PATIENT! IT’S A PROCESS AND IT WILL TAKE TIME.

The husband continues with the 40-day challenge and half way through, he feels rejected even more as his wife still do not respond to him. He is ready to throw in the towel.  So he attacks her with all her wrongdoings.  He states, “how do I show love over and over  to someone who constantly rejects me”. 

YOU NEED TO LOVE YOUR SPOUSE NO MATTER IF THEY DESERVE IT OR NOT. YOU MAY NOT LIKE THEM FROM TIME TO TIME, BUT LOVE AND RESPECT IS A MUST IF THE MARRIAGE IS TO WORK OUT.

I read a critic that said this movie is about a man that needed scriptural instructions on how NOT to act like a **** to your wife. He was being negative and sarcastic. But I thought to myself, it’s true. The only way a man can truly be a good husband is getting strength from the bible. These critics don’t realize what they are really saying. I think that is just hilarious! Stupid People.

 Marriage cannot survive on its own in today’s world. How can it with all the adultery, abuse and divorce that are acceptable in today’s society. Marriages need guidance.  The best guidance marriage can get is Jesus and the roadmap of the bible. When Jesus is involved in the marriage, it is not just a contract but a covenant with the husband, wife and Jesus. For any marriage to work, Christ must be the center of the relationship.

I believe everyone, married and all those that are single that wants to be married, should watch this movie. It’s a breath of fresh air knowing there is still hope in making marriages work without resulting in divorce. Singles can learn a lot from this movie, especially on how to prevent a marriage from getting to that point of wanting a divorce.

LOVE is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. LOVE never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7