This is the cry of help from people that are part of an online social relationship group. I decided to join just to see the advice given to these people that are desperately seeking for answers. I spent hours upon hours on the first day as I read the various topics such as:

• How to make out with someone
• I’m addicted to sex
• How to steal her away
• I think I am gay
• Suicidal thoughts
• Going through a Divorce
• Which are the best Condoms

Practically any topic related to sex, dating & relationships have been posted. I was overwhelmed as each submission had such an urgency and desperation for that person to find an answer to their problem. This saddens me and the worse thing about it is the advice that people are actually giving. Let me give you an example of the issue of one girl that asked, “How to pop my cherry without having sex”. She further states that she wants to break her hymen so she doesn’t bleed the first time she has sex. And the advice she gets from others is to masturbate, use a vibrator and even use a foreign object to break her own hymen. My jaw dropped to the floor at this type of advice. The girl that asked the questioned thanked them and was going to try it. Are you kidding me? This is what our world has come down to…getting this kind of advice from strangers on the internet. Why aren’t people telling her that virginity is a very precious gift from God. It also is the most ultimate gift she can give to her future husband if she just waits.  Not one person came close to this.

So I decided to give it a try with my advice, hoping I can make a difference. What I found was that the majority of the people giving the advice will influence that person to make that decision. I stumbled across a post where a female was in love with a guy that was perfect except he had one flaw…he is bi-sexual. She felt she was Homophobic and wasn’t sure about dating him. Every advice before mine gave her the green light in giving him a chance and she needed to get over being homophobic. They told her it is accepted in today’s society to be bi-sexual.  Something in me wanted to give these people a piece of my Christian mind, but I decided to be human about it and not be one of those judgmental Christians. I took the approach of warning her of the risk that she may get a STD or worse AIDS with him. Do you know that everyone SHOT down my advice and attacked me? WOW! That blew me away. At the end, this female tells everyone that she has decided to give him a chance and date him. I believe she made this decision based on more people supporting her in dating him than not to date him. It’s another form of peer pressure but online.

As I continue to read the various issues people posted, the one major topic that kept coming up was regarding virginity and when is the right time to lose it. There were a lot of arguments for both sides: wait until marriage and others say do it now, when you feel you are ready, when you are in love, etc.  Some said they had regrets on giving up their virginity before marriage. It just goes to show, people do desire to save their purity until marriage! But how can people save themselves for their mate when our society gives bad advice like the ones on this social network?

As I said, it seems like a lot of these people that post will make a decision on what the majority says. If we as Christians were out there among them, we can stand up for what we believe in and have an influence on people searching for answers. As Christians, we all know they are searching for Jesus, the one and only answer. It’s up to us to show them the love of Jesus. Together we can influence the world in making good decisions. It’s time to stand up for good morals. Will you join me  in helping others?

The next generation is crying out to the world for answers. Christians – I challenge you all to be the voice that they need to hear because they are the sheep that’s getting ready to be slaughtered by this world. Step up to the challenge and befriend these people that are so hungry for the truth but don’t know it’s Jesus they are looking for. If you won’t tell them, who will? The pimp, drug dealer or the pedophile that is right around the corner, that’s who. Again, my question to you is – will you join me in helping others?
Jesus answered, “I am the way and the TRUTH and the life…”   John 14:6

I expected more from the movie, “He’s just not that into you”. My friends have told me it’s a good movie with a lot of truths to it regarding relationships. So I had high expectations before seeing it, but then it was a big let down to me. I couldpredict what was going to happen along the way, plus the situations are so far from the truth of reality.  I hate these kinds of movies.

There were different scenarios with men and women trying to understand each other. The guy friend would tell the female friend what guys really meant with their actions, such as not calling after a date or saying things that women take the wrong way. So she listens to his advice and thinks he is interested in her so it backfires on her. This guy sets this woman up with his friend, but at the end the original guy ends up liking her and they find true love with each other.  

When we watch these types of movies we must evaluate to see how this affects us in our lives. We can’t live in a fantasy of unrealistic expectations in relationships that are in movies like this. Remember, it’s just a movie, and take it at its face value.  Don’t mistake this for reality in your life.

The quest she had for the entire movie is how to find true love. How to know if you are the exception or the general rule? That’s an easy answer. Everyone is an exception! You know why? Because everyone will have their own unique story to tell about how they found their mate and how they knew they were made for each other. There is no cookie-cutter when it comes to true love. Your story is going to be different than the next person, so stop trying to figure out how it is all supposed to happen through signs or what your friends say. It’s just going to consume you and bring frustration into your life.

Let’s focus on a line from the movie  -“ If he’s not calling you…” then he is not interested. DUH! Come on ladies. Stop trying to make a person call you. I love how they portray this woman checking her voicemail every few minutes, having her phone by her side even when she is showering, and checking to make sure her phone is working. Have you even prayed to God that he would have him call you? I know I’ve done it. Can I get an amen?

WOW! How sad, but how true this is for so many of us.  Why do we torture ourselves with this? This is not healthy and this is not what God wants us to do with our time. Life is too short to waste waiting on that call!

Here is something that you can do… CONTINUE  on with your life. Don’t stop living and doing things in hope that your knight & shining armor is going to come sweep you off your feet once he calls. Stop living in a fantasy. Get back into reality and live in today and not in LaLa Land of NeverLand!

I’ve counseled so many women who don’t have a life. They have no dreams for their future other than waiting around for a husband. Guess what? Today, these women are still waiting around and sadly have wasted precious time. There is more to life than just waiting around and going through the motions until you get your “big break” with a guy. Then and only then will you find happiness…NOT! Your happiness does not depend on a person or marriage. You came into this world by yourself and you will leave this world by yourself.

I know so many women that are married and miserable. And you think being single and lonely is bad? There is nothing worse than being married and lonely. Chew on that thought for awhile!

Dream big dreams and find purpose for your life now so you won’t waste it on waiting for a guy to bring you happiness. In other words, GET A LIFE!

“Where there is no vision, the people perish…” – Proverbs 29:18