He's Just Not That Into You

I expected more from the movie, “He’s just not that into you”. My friends have told me it’s a good movie with a lot of truths to it regarding relationships. So I had high expectations before seeing it, but then it was a big let down to me. I couldpredict what was going to happen along the way, plus the situations are so far from the truth of reality.  I hate these kinds of movies.

There were different scenarios with men and women trying to understand each other. The guy friend would tell the female friend what guys really meant with their actions, such as not calling after a date or saying things that women take the wrong way. So she listens to his advice and thinks he is interested in her so it backfires on her. This guy sets this woman up with his friend, but at the end the original guy ends up liking her and they find true love with each other.  

When we watch these types of movies we must evaluate to see how this affects us in our lives. We can’t live in a fantasy of unrealistic expectations in relationships that are in movies like this. Remember, it’s just a movie, and take it at its face value.  Don’t mistake this for reality in your life.

The quest she had for the entire movie is how to find true love. How to know if you are the exception or the general rule? That’s an easy answer. Everyone is an exception! You know why? Because everyone will have their own unique story to tell about how they found their mate and how they knew they were made for each other. There is no cookie-cutter when it comes to true love. Your story is going to be different than the next person, so stop trying to figure out how it is all supposed to happen through signs or what your friends say. It’s just going to consume you and bring frustration into your life.

Let’s focus on a line from the movie  -“ If he’s not calling you…” then he is not interested. DUH! Come on ladies. Stop trying to make a person call you. I love how they portray this woman checking her voicemail every few minutes, having her phone by her side even when she is showering, and checking to make sure her phone is working. Have you even prayed to God that he would have him call you? I know I’ve done it. Can I get an amen?

WOW! How sad, but how true this is for so many of us.  Why do we torture ourselves with this? This is not healthy and this is not what God wants us to do with our time. Life is too short to waste waiting on that call!

Here is something that you can do… CONTINUE  on with your life. Don’t stop living and doing things in hope that your knight & shining armor is going to come sweep you off your feet once he calls. Stop living in a fantasy. Get back into reality and live in today and not in LaLa Land of NeverLand!

I’ve counseled so many women who don’t have a life. They have no dreams for their future other than waiting around for a husband. Guess what? Today, these women are still waiting around and sadly have wasted precious time. There is more to life than just waiting around and going through the motions until you get your “big break” with a guy. Then and only then will you find happiness…NOT! Your happiness does not depend on a person or marriage. You came into this world by yourself and you will leave this world by yourself.

I know so many women that are married and miserable. And you think being single and lonely is bad? There is nothing worse than being married and lonely. Chew on that thought for awhile!

Dream big dreams and find purpose for your life now so you won’t waste it on waiting for a guy to bring you happiness. In other words, GET A LIFE!

“Where there is no vision, the people perish…” – Proverbs 29:18